From 2nd to 3rd…

Just got back from christmas gift shopping with my wife. The last time I checked, we were already done with all the shopping, but I guess I was wrong (or was I?) Maybe, we were already done shopping but my wife somehow made me believe the opposite. Hmmmm…. Nevertheless, I enjoyed today’s agenda. My wife kept asking me what I wanted, but I told her honestly that I didn’t really want anything. She called me "Kill-Joy". I just laughed and told her that I would rather see her spend something on herself or our son. And that’s the truth by the way. Never really enjoyed buying stuff or things for me, unless it is really necessary. I was brought up to be like that. Anyway, she tried to buy a pair of sunglasses, but she so nothing that she liked for me. Her exact terms were "Ang papanget!" I tried to tell her that the sunglasses were ugly because she married an ugly man, but decided to keep that thoughts to myself. She might realize that I’m not really good looking and have second thoughts. Better let her realize that unconvenient truth by herself (hehehehe).   

On my son….

I asked my son this morning what he wanted for christmas and he answered, "Dragons for home and dinos for school". I laughed and asked him, "really?", and to my surprise (or dismay) he said yes. What happened? Never realized that gifts from home and from school should two different things. Or maybe, kids now are so smart that they know how to manipulate their parents. Yikes! Anyway, I love my son so I guess I’ll have to buy him what he wants. (Sigh) Good thing Christmas season only comes once year.

On work…

I still haven’t finished several paperworks at my office. Though I’ve started on them, I seem can’t to finish. Is it the layback and carefree feeling that comes with the christmas season? Or is it just I’m plain lazy? I’d rather think that it was the former and not the latter. Wouldn’t other people, especially my clients, think I’m lazy. Believe me I’m not lazy… If I was, shouldn’t I be continuing my paperworks instead of doing this blog… oh! Damn. 

It’s about 11:00 o’clock in the evening and my son and I are not yet sleeping. I’m focused on my lap top, while his in our bed, lying down I guess. I could still hear him playing with his dragon toys (megabloks). Once in a while he would ask me questions like, "Dad, is tomorrow Thursday?" I’d say, "No, son. It will Wednesday only." I think he misses his mom, like I do. My wife is attending a seminar in Baguio City. She usually attends these so-called seminars as part of her training as a branch clerk of court. For those who are wondering, a branch clerk of court is sort of the right-hand man, or lady for that matter, of a trial court judge. Anyway, she’s probably sleeping now because when I last talked to her, she told me that she got tired of buying "pasalubongs" (What a seminar!!!)

Hmmmm. No more questions from my son for quite a while. I don’t have to look back to know that he’s asleep already. I guess I’m the one presently awake in our family of three. I’ll probably read a book before I go to sleep tonight because I’m not used to sleeping without my wife beside me. I also hope that sleep finds me fast, still got a hearing tomorrow at San Pedro, Laguna.

I think I forgot my client’s records at the office….. Oh well…. 

    Most people believe that it is always better to sue than to be sued in court. Not necessarily. One must remember that court litigations, or any adversarial proceeding for that matter, has the same effects on both parties. Whether you’re the complainant/plaintiff or respondent/defendant, both of you will experience the same amount of strain, rigors and stress of a court litigation. All of these, plus the time you will consume just to finish the process. This is why more often than not, especially in criminal cases, the person suing losses interest to pursue his case against another. When this happens, everyone’s time is waisted, especially the lawyer’s and court’s.

    To avoid the above, I often tell our clients to think carefully before they decide to file a case. I also candidly tell them to not to expect that their case will end sooner than later (not to mention that they will have to be ready for the expenses which comes with the filing of a court case).  Sometimes, we even explain to the client that they should keep an open mind to a reasonable settlement, if one should come up. Remember, there is nothing wrong in avoiding a litigation over a matter, if an amicable settle over same will be beneficial to both parties.

    In the end, honesty is the best, and should be the only, approach in explaining the matter to clients. No beating around the bushes, half-truths or white lies. After all, lawyering is a noble profession.

1. My wife, Iree.
2. My son, Third.
3. My profession.
4. My friends, all sets.
5. My relatives, consaguinity or affinity.
6. Cholesterol, 204 (150 is the normal)
7. Uric Acid, 7.4 (5 is the normal)
8. Triglyceride, basta mataas.
9. Stress
10. wala na…

This is how I see it:

God will not give us challenges that we cannot overcome;

God will not cause pain that we cannot bear;

God will not provide us with failures without any corresponding success;

God will not ruin our plan, he is just making a better one;

In short, don’t fret on every challenges you encounter, don’t grimace at your pain, don’t  get frustrated if you fail and don’t get mad when everything doesn’t go as planned. Just put your trust in him and he will do the rest.

…is my wife.I fear that there will come a time that she will grow tired of me, due to my shortcomings and mistakes. I fear that she will stop caring, whether I get home early or not. I fear the time that she will forget about me when she is too busy with her work or her shopping. I fear that she will regret that she married a inconsiderate and insensitive person like me. I also fear that she will eventually realize that I am not good-looking, smart and witty. Lastly, what I fear is that she will love me less everyday and not know about it.
    I love you, Han.

Love begins when a person feels another person’s need to be as important as his own.
                                                                                                  Harry Stack Sullivan

     I heard a story about a man who had been married for over thirty years, Returning home from work one evening, he found his wife packing. "What in the world are you doing?" he asked.
    "I can’t handle it anymore!" she cried. "We’ve done nothing but fight, argue, complain and bicker at each other. I’ve decided to leave."
    The man stood in shock and bewilderment as his wife walked out of the house - out of his life. Suddenly, he dashed to the bedroom an pulled a suitcase down from the closet shelf. Running outside, he yelled to his wife, "I can’t handle it anymore, either. Wait for me, and I’ll go with you."